Why are there so many profiles of men that have no photo on them? Do men think we aren't interested in seeing them? Are they too ugly to be seen? Are they in witness protection??? I'm joking but, I see some interesting profiles without pictures and I move on to the ones with pics. I'm wondering how many women contact men without photos and if it makes any difference? Any stories or comments out there?
Why are there so many profiles of men that have no photo on them? Do men think we aren't interested in seeing them? Are they too ugly to be seen? Are they in witness protection??? I'm joking but, I see some interesting profiles without pictures and I move on to the ones with pics. I'm wondering how many women contact men without photos and if it makes any difference? Any stories or comments out there?
Well to speak on my behalf, I was really sceptical about posting a photo; due to where I work. I like to keep my private social life very private and don't want or need the hassal of my co-workers all up in my business. Many of my co-workers be online as well; besides I definatly don't want the men at work to know that I'm single they would be all over me (not tryna make it seem like I'm all that) but I definatly don't like to date where i make my bread.
Im not into office romancing...just my thoughts on the matter. So maybe that's why some people don't post pictures.
And some probably don't post pictures because they want to see how shallow folks can be; some people actually would like to find out if you like their personality first before you place so much value on their looks. Pictures can be sent privatly once you search for what's really at heart...
Well to speak on my behalf, I was really sceptical about posting a photo; due to where I work. I like to keep my private social life very private and don't want or need the hassal of my co-workers all up in my business. Many of my co-workers be online as well; besides I definatly don't want the men at work to know that I'm single they would be all over me (not tryna make it seem like I'm all that) but I definatly don't like to date where i make my bread.
Im not into office romancing...just my thoughts on the matter. So maybe that's why some people don't post pictures.
And some probably don't post pictures because they want to see how shallow folks can be; some people actually would like to find out if you like their personality first before you place so much value on their looks. Pictures can be sent privatly once you search for what's really at heart...
How often should a person update their picture? Or their profile for that matter? I`ve been here so long, I just a couple of days ago realized how old my pic was.(5 years) I immediately took it down because it no longer is really true. Now, however, I probably won´t post a new one because I´m no longer looking for a partner. Is that unfair of me or honest? Rogue, you make good points but please don´t forget about those of us that aren´t really looking for someone except as a blog enthusist...
How often should a person update their picture? Or their profile for that matter? I`ve been here so long, I just a couple of days ago realized how old my pic was.(5 years) I immediately took it down because it no longer is really true. Now, however, I probably won´t post a new one because I´m no longer looking for a partner. Is that unfair of me or honest? Rogue, you make good points but please don´t forget about those of us that aren´t really looking for someone except as a blog enthusist...
I think its rather silly to have a profile on a dating site and NOT show yourself. If you are going to "venture" into the world and start dating from the internet then you should have enough goin on that you CAN and WILL let someone see you. My experience has been like yours Roque67, they are hiding for reasons I don't even want to think about.... lol....AND I agree that it seems somethin is up or wrong if you can't show who you are. And it is also equally worse if your pictures are so old if you did meet the person you would have no idea it was them....because its from high school which was probably 10+ years ago! I realize its a chance you take it may show some vulnerbility and yes maybe you are shy.....but remember it also takes guts to put that picture up in the first place! JMHO!
I think its rather silly to have a profile on a dating site and NOT show yourself. If you are going to "venture" into the world and start dating from the internet then you should have enough goin on that you CAN and WILL let someone see you. My experience has been like yours Roque67, they are hiding for reasons I don't even want to think about.... lol....AND I agree that it seems somethin is up or wrong if you can't show who you are. And it is also equally worse if your pictures are so old if you did meet the person you would have no idea it was them....because its from high school which was probably 10+ years ago! I realize its a chance you take it may show some vulnerbility and yes maybe you are shy.....but remember it also takes guts to put that picture up in the first place! JMHO!
I don't consider myself photogenic..so any pics of me get scrutinized within an inch of their lives.I have been like this since I was young; there are actually pics of me where I have this "I don't want to be here look" on my face.yes,it would seem unfair,particularly if I contact a female who has a pic up..hopefully,until I have a pic I can stomach on my profile,she will be interested in me based on my profile..
I don't consider myself photogenic..so any pics of me get scrutinized within an inch of their lives.I have been like this since I was young; there are actually pics of me where I have this "I don't want to be here look" on my face.yes,it would seem unfair,particularly if I contact a female who has a pic up..hopefully,until I have a pic I can stomach on my profile,she will be interested in me based on my profile..
I dunno Soft.......I probably look 10 years older than I am..at least the 20 something year old guys at work all seem to think so. But then, 52 probably seems pretty ancient to them.
Another amusing story.....A couple of years ago I talked to one of the "people always tell me I look younger than I am" women on this site. We talked a couple months till it came time to meet. Then, of course, she vanished.......Saw a different profile here for her last year...with a picture of a totally different woman. Big surprise...hahahaha
I dunno Soft.......I probably look 10 years older than I am..at least the 20 something year old guys at work all seem to think so. But then, 52 probably seems pretty ancient to them.
Another amusing story.....A couple of years ago I talked to one of the "people always tell me I look younger than I am" women on this site. We talked a couple months till it came time to meet. Then, of course, she vanished.......Saw a different profile here for her last year...with a picture of a totally different woman. Big surprise...hahahaha
You bring up some good points, M. There are so many ways for people to misrepresent themselves on dating sites. Not only are the pictures way out-of-date but ages can be exaggerated too. Have you ever seen a profile where they say they are 40 but the picture clearly shows someone much older? True, some poeple do look older than they really are but 15 or 20 years older???? I like to be honest, too. If I wanted to play games, I would be hanging out in the bars. Thanks for the post!
You bring up some good points, M. There are so many ways for people to misrepresent themselves on dating sites. Not only are the pictures way out-of-date but ages can be exaggerated too. Have you ever seen a profile where they say they are 40 but the picture clearly shows someone much older? True, some poeple do look older than they really are but 15 or 20 years older???? I like to be honest, too. If I wanted to play games, I would be hanging out in the bars. Thanks for the post!
Hmmm......I'm one of those guys that doesn't post a picture. Mostly, its because I work with a bunch of guys who would take great pleasure in finding it and wallpapering the entire office with copies of my profile. I do, however, post an accurate description of myself. And, I have no reservations about sending a picture to anyone that asks for one....So, if you ask, I will send....and even give you my REAL name, address and home phone number. Profiles with photos aren't always all that great anyhow. You wouldn't believe the number of women who have fake photos or 10 year old photos or give fake names or only give cell phone numbers beacuse they "never use their home phone". Not to mention the "single" girls that can only whisper on the phone for some unknown reason and the "widows" who get daily messages from their husbands on facebook. So really, picture or not, good profile or bad, its always a shot in the dark when you contact somebody from a dating site.
Hmmm......I'm one of those guys that doesn't post a picture. Mostly, its because I work with a bunch of guys who would take great pleasure in finding it and wallpapering the entire office with copies of my profile. I do, however, post an accurate description of myself. And, I have no reservations about sending a picture to anyone that asks for one....So, if you ask, I will send....and even give you my REAL name, address and home phone number. Profiles with photos aren't always all that great anyhow. You wouldn't believe the number of women who have fake photos or 10 year old photos or give fake names or only give cell phone numbers beacuse they "never use their home phone". Not to mention the "single" girls that can only whisper on the phone for some unknown reason and the "widows" who get daily messages from their husbands on facebook. So really, picture or not, good profile or bad, its always a shot in the dark when you contact somebody from a dating site.
Based on my experience only, I have come to learn that most men don't post profile pics because of having something to hide.
1) They are married or in a relationship of some type and don't want their significant other to find out. 2) They are in prestigious career positions and run the risk of loosing their jobs if found out. 3) They are not very attractive and to reduce the level of rejection, try to attract a female based on what is in their profile. However, physical attraction does matter. It just matters at different levels to different people. 4) They are registered sex offenders YES! I have found this to be very true! 5) In general, they are just shady men with very questionable characters and backgrounds. 6) They are truly shy and meek.
I look at it this way. If a person has nothing to hide, then hide nothing at all. Be real, true, honest and upfront about yourself. There is truly nothing hard about that :)
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Good questions :)
Based on my experience only, I have come to learn that most men don't post profile pics because of having something to hide.
1) They are married or in a relationship of some type and don't want their significant other to find out. 2) They are in prestigious career positions and run the risk of loosing their jobs if found out. 3) They are not very attractive and to reduce the level of rejection, try to attract a female based on what is in their profile. However, physical attraction does matter. It just matters at different levels to different people. 4) They are registered sex offenders YES! I have found this to be very true! 5) In general, they are just shady men with very questionable characters and backgrounds. 6) They are truly shy and meek.
I look at it this way. If a person has nothing to hide, then hide nothing at all. Be real, true, honest and upfront about yourself. There is truly nothing hard about that :)
